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Hi, my name is Richele McFarlin. I reside in Ohio with my family. I am a homeschooling mom to my three precious children. I am a proud wife of ten years to my husband Phil. We met in college where we both majored in Psychology. Our family is centered around the Lord Jesus Christ. My husband and I gratefully serve the Lord at our local church. Our ministries include AWANA, junior church, and In-Touch small group meetings to name a few. I am thankful to have the opportunity to further serve the Lord through Wives of Faith. My goal is to help wives build blessed Godly relationships with their husbands.

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Lessons from a Vindictive Wife

Herodias is not a name you will hear when great wives of the bible are mentioned. She was certainly not a great wife but a vindictive woman willing to do whatever necessary to get her way. There is nothing in Herodias’ character that would make any woman want to draw any correlation with her own character. Yet, we can learn from her and how she conducted herself in her marriage.

Herodias got bent out of shape when John (the Baptist) accused her marriage with Herod to be unlawful. Who would dare say anything so brazen about the king and his wife? How could he get away with implying that the King’s marriage was incestuous and unlawful? Surprisingly, John was able to say such a thing and get away with it. Herod has no intention of punishing John for his bold statements. Herodias was infuriated. She had been offended by both John and her husband’s inaction. The bible states that she wanted to kill John but had not the power to get the act done. Frustrated, angry, and offended…possibly feeling betrayed by her husband’s lack of defense on her part, she devised her own way. She would manipulate her husband in such a way to force his hand to her will. In the process she included her own daughter, Salome, in her scheme. While Herod was drunk at his birthday party, Herodias had her daughter dance for the king. Herodias no doubt knew her husband would be pleased by this. Herod was so pleased he promised with an oath that Salome could have anything she wanted. Salome asked for John the Baptist’s head on a plate. It was done. Herodias got the result she wanted uncaring of the position she put her husband or daughter in. Herodias could certainly be proud of herself that day, not only did she get rid of John but she also got even with her husband.

Does that sound like anything you would do? Has a John ever come in between you and your husband? Have you seen to it that a friend of your husband’s that you did not like never showed his face around your house again? Anytime you force your husband’s hand to bend to your will you are acting like Herodias. If you are forcing his hand on the decision of new carpet to what school your children attend you are not being a Godly wife. Have you used your children against him so he had not other choice but to concede to your plan? Our husband’s will eventually make decisions we do not like. Our husband’s may even disappoint us with a lack of defense on our part.

In these situations we need to consider what action would be pleasing to God not ourselves. Our relationship with our husband mirrors our relationship with God. We need to trust that God will guide and convict our husbands properly. Will there be times our husbands are not pleasing the Lord or not considering the Lord when making a decision? Yes. Yet, it is still not our role to manipulate him or force his hand to our will even if at the time we believe it is God’s will. We obey our God not our flesh. Show the Lord you trust Him by trusting your husband.

Lessons from a Vindictive Wife

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